I’ve had a situation fall into my lap that I want your feedback on. Let’s just say you’re dating someone who is all that you want them to be, and it looks like it could end up being a Great Relationship. You visit each other’s homes, you hang out, you hang in, and all that good stuff. You go to their house one day and one of their parents is there… The parent walks past you and doesn’t speak at all… How do you handle that?
Or let’s say, the parent speaks sometimes and not others… Yet, the parent is open and warm with everyone else but you, How do you handle that? Do you laugh it off and ignore them?
Keep in mind, you’re a decent person. You’re not a threat to society. You don’t bring bad energy around. You wear clean socks and the whole deal but this parent is doing things that could possibly drive a wedge in the relationship with you and your significant other, and you seem to be the only one that notices… Or at least the only one who it seems to matter to.
Or let’s say, your significant other’s relative does things like… Come to an area of the house where only you and your mate are, and they speak to ONLY your mate (Not you) and then keep it moving. How would you handle that? Do you look to your mate to dissolve the obvious?
Or what if the reverse happened and it was your relative who was overtly rude to the person you’re dating, what would you do? Would you speak to the relative on behalf of your mate or maybe let your mate know that the person isn’t even worth speaking to and tell your mate to just pay the relative no attention?
Or maybe the rude relative has a perfectly good reason for being rude to your mate… But you just don’t feel comfortable telling your mate the reason why the rude relative is being the rude relative to them. Then what??
What about things like a future family… What if your mate, as a result, doesn’t want your rude relative around in the future. That might cause a bit of a separation in your family if your rude relative isn’t allowed at certain events… but is your mate wrong for that? Would you let it get that far? What would you do?
I find these types of scenarios interesting and I have my opinion but I would love to know what most of you think. And I’m almost sure a great deal of you have been and/or are in a situation like this so please share, lol!!
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